Monthly Archives: February 2007
Surviving vs. Happiness
While seeking happiness is a major theme in my life, I hadn’t intended for it to be part of this blog. As much as I’d thought about it (not much), I’d assumed I would blog, and then go off and … Continue reading
Happiness Momentum
Much of what keeps me engaged with happiness is the explosive growth in publications about it. For me, to read about happiness is to move in that direction. I don’t buy the set-point theory of personality. That’s the one that … Continue reading
An About-Face Into Happiness
And now for a complete change of pace…. I like to think I am a sane person (just a garden variety neurotic, as one of my good buddies put it – making me think I must look something like a … Continue reading
Apologies Part 3: The Association
At the 2000 General Assembly, Kay Montgomery, Vice President of the Unitarian Universalist Association, apologized to victims and survivors of clergy misconduct. I was in that assembly, and was profoundly moved. It was one of those rare moments when I … Continue reading
Signs of Trauma
I’ve been asked about the physical marks I mentioned yesterday. Sorry. I didn’t mean to be mysterious. They actually aren’t that big a deal other than that they exist at all — my body’s reminders of trauma past. In fact, … Continue reading
To Reach Me
I’m getting feedback that it’s a bit difficult to reach me. I know and I wish it could be otherwise. My basic reason is fear. Specifically it’s fear of spam and retribution – not a pretty combination. Unfortunately these are … Continue reading
Apologies Part 2: the Minister and the MFC
Marie Fortune has an illuminating skit she does with survivors of clergy misconduct. She sits in a chair and says the sort of things victims of clergy abuse say. “He ruined my life.” “They didn’t believe me.” Etc. With each … Continue reading
Apologies: Part 1
The other day I bought a silly stuffed animal for my Valentine. As I checked out, the cashier played with the animal and bantered, having a great time and spreading cheer. The total, though, as I signed my credit card … Continue reading
Why Stay Inversion
“Just as people take pride in things for which they have no responsibility (such as famous ancestors, national championships of their sports teams, and great accomplishments of their nation), so, too, must these people accept the shame (but not the … Continue reading
"Unfortunate Expertise"
Yesterday I got the first negative feedback on the blog to date. Among other things, the person thought I was saying I was an expert. I can understand why this might be off-putting or worse. Self-proclaimed experts — ugh. So … Continue reading